Do you all remember the story, “Goldilocks and the Three Bears”? It’s an old fairytale where a girl comes across a house in the woods and decides to try out the food and furniture of the family who lives there. However, in a stunning turn of events, the family is not present while Goldilocks decides to trespass on the premises. Still, the family’s vacancy does not prevent little Miss Goldie from frolicking about the estate.
One of the first things that Goldie stumbles upon is a table with three bowls of untouched porridge. (As a child, I always translated porridge to oatmeal in my mind, thus making the story easier to digest . . . no pun intended.) Although Goldie was not in her own home, she decided to partake in a tasting adventure. She tasted some from each bowl, and then proceeded to give her commentary on the quality of the dish as if she was a judge on the hit show, “Masterchef.” She tried the first dish and exclaimed, “This porridge is too hot!” (Go figure Goldie! That is why it was probably sitting there untouched in the first place.) She tried the second dish and said, “This porridge is too cold!” (This is quite alarming considering that all three dishes were likely cooked at the same time. Bet you never thought of that before. I know I probably just blew your mind, but I digress. Let’s move on.) She tried the third dish and with the kind of satisfaction that Mick Jagger would totally envy she stated, “This one is JUST right.”
I know you must be thinking, “Wait, is this blogger really about to go through this entire story while adding her colorful commentary?” You’d love that wouldn’t ya? Well, I’m sorry. Hate to burst your bubble, but I do have a point folks. As this scene from the fairytale came across my mind the other day, I had an “Aha!” moment. Our gifts are like bowls of porridge and society is like Goldilocks. (At this point, I sense the confusion on your face, but stay with me.) Each of us has gifts. Some of us share similar gifts. For example, multiple people have the gift of singing. Multiple people have the gift of writing. Multiple people have the gift of drawing, and so forth and so on. However, even if multiple people have similar gifts, the presentation is different because the people are different. When society experiences our gifts, society’s view will vary because of those differences.
Think of your gifts right now. Whatever those gifts may be, think about any negative criticism that you’ve gotten about it. (By negative criticism, I’m not referring constructive criticism. I’m referring to criticism that is just purely negative.) Now if someone disliked some project you worked on for no other reason except that it just wasn’t their taste, then I want to give you these comforting words. It’s okay. You’re not going to be everyone’s cup of tea, i.e. bowl of porridge, even if you’re walking into your gift. We’re all different and thus we’re drawn to each other’s talents and gifts (or not) for different reasons. Further, it is because of those differences that we can boldly walk into our own individual callings that were crafted especially for each of us. There is something special about you that cannot be replicated by anyone else.
Now to some, your gift may be overwhelming and just too much for some people to bear. To others, your gift may be underwhelming, leaving a few people unimpressed with your great effort. BUT . . . there will be lives that you could touch that would otherwise be unreachable to the rest of the world. Continue to walk into your individual calling. Embrace your unique abilities. To the negative Goldilocks-like people of the world, continue to give zero cares. You may not be everybody’s bowl of porridge, but for some, your gift will be “JUST RIGHT.” 🙂